As hard as it might be – you’ve got to let these toxic people go!
Daniell Koepke has some inspiring words on this topic.
(Daniell’s a doctoral student in a Clinical Psychology PsyD. program and founder of Internal Acceptance Movement.)
“You don’t ever have to feel guilty about removing toxic people from your life.
It doesn’t matter whether someone is a relative, romantic interest, employer, childhood friend, or a new acquaintance.
You don’t have to make room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small.
It’s one thing if a person owns up to their behavior and makes an effort to change.
But if a person disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries, and continues to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go.”
“Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions.
Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and way of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness.
They aren’t inherently bad people, but they aren’t the right people for us.
And as hard as it is, we have to let them go.
Life is hard enough without being around people who bring you down, and as much as you care, you can’t destroy yourself for the sake of someone else.
You have to make your wellbeing a priority.
Whether that means breaking up with someone you care about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful — you have every right to leave and create a safer space for yourself.”
Below is a poster for you to print out, pass forward or use as a screen saver.
What’s something which comes to your mind and heart when you read about toxic love relationships, toxic friendships – and toxic people of all kinds? Share your personal story!
Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.
Live your happiest life. Get my research-based happiness newsletter delivered conveniently to your inbox.