then lost 20 pounds in about 3 months – and kept the weight off for 3 years and counting.Confession time: I used to be a stress eater – until I did some research as to why –
One of the interesting insights I found: Often over-eating is a way to punish yourself – for the anger and resentment you’re feeling – either at yourself – or someone else.
In fact there’s been a lot of research which supports how anger is at the root of many addictions – as far ranging as food, drug, alcohol and shopping addictions. Addicts seek these vices to avoid feeling the pain of past resentments. Their anger becomes a boomerang —or what I call a “boomeranger” —because their unwanted negative emotions come back to whack them with an addiction.The University of Wisconsin did a recent research study, comparing “Forgiveness Therapy” versus routine “Traditional Drug/Alcohol Therapy.” They showed “Forgiveness Therapy” helped to relieve the anger behind substance abuse even more successfully than routine drug/alcohol therapy.
Plus, not only did subjects display faster success, but created less recidivism. Meaning? They didn’t return to their addictions! They stayed addiction-free!
After I read this study (and further research) I decided to go on “A Hate Loss Plan” as part of my “Weight Loss Plan.”
In other words, I realized that whenever I was pigging out on a big bag of Cheese Doodles, I was really pigging out on a bag of “I Hate Me Doodles” or a bag of “I Hate That This Challenge/Adversity/Rejection Has Happened To Me Doodles.”I recognized that I needed to re-train my brain to stop eating like I wanted to punish myself – or punish someone else. I needed to re-learn how to eat like I loved myself – and want to nourish and support myself.
As soon as I developed healthier ways to deal with my anger, regret, resentment, worry – sure enough I released the pull I felt towards food.
Presently it’s now instinctual for me to choose to eat like I love myself – instead of eating like I wanted to punish myself. Plus I’ve not only lost weight, I’ve lost the anger and anxiety I was feeling. I feel happier and calmer within.
Can you relate to any of this? Even if you’re not over-eating specifically as “punishment,” chances are you’re doing it to avoid being fully present with yourself – and unwanted feelings.
Although you might think you’re over-eating for fun entertainment – or as an attempt to comfort yourself – there are healthier ways to have fun and get comforted.
Chances are you’re using over-eating as a way to escape yourself. It’s an attempt not to feel or think about what you really need to feel and face.
If you want to live your happiest life – true to who you are – true to what you need – then you have to stop pigging out and start listening up!
This is why I developed my video course Stop Emotional Eating – a life-changing online home course – you can do at your own pace. You’ll not only lose weight, you’ll gain self-love, gain calm, gain confidence – and gain lots of positive energy to go towards what I call your “Grand Quest” – an exciting passion/mission.
Click to find out my tools to stop emotional eating! I’d love for you to be my next success story!
Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.
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